Finding Common Ground In Reasons For Divorce

When you are going through a very difficult and life-changing experience, it is important to find advice and guidance from trusted sources. But it can also be highly cathartic to simply hear that you are not alone – that others have been where you are and have come out alright on the other side. In times like these, the phrase “me too” can be incredibly powerful.

Such is the case with divorce. Although the legal and financial details of each case are different, the experiences that lead to divorce are surprisingly common. That was highlighted in a news story from June that surveyed over 300 divorced individuals from North Carolina.

Although the respondents were not from here in the Asheville area, they weren’t too far away. The story ran in the Charlotte Agenda and interviewed subscribers who had been through a divorce. The reasons they gave for divorce are some that you might be experiencing as well. They included:

• Realizing they got married too young
• Infidelity
• Dishonesty around finances and other important topics
• Emotional abuse
• Constant tension and argument
• A major change in the relationship dynamic after children were born
• Alcoholism, drug addiction and substance abuse
• Realizing a mutual lack of compatibility
• Loving and respecting one another platonically but not romantically (being better as friends than as spouses)
• Simply growing apart over time

Again, none of this information is new or groundbreaking from a research perspective. But that’s not where its value lies. Instead, it is an important reminder that there are many reasons to divorce – from the scandalous to the comparatively mundane – and that all reasons are valid.

If you are about to go through a divorce, the stories provided above hopefully helped you feel less alone on your journey. Now its time to seek experienced legal guidance through this complex process. Contact our office to learn more about how we can help you.